Okay...I missed yet another post, but this time I have a better excuse than I was reading (I did finish Mockingjay though...haha). Last Monday I was busy taking care of not one but two pukey children. Good excuse, right?
As my husband and I took turns with the kids all day (thank God for Federal holidays!) I thought about how lucky I am that I have him to support me not only as a partner in parenting, but also as a support for my writing. I know that he will be there to encourage me and take over a big portion of parenting when I need that down time to lock myself in my office and write.
It got me thining about others in my life who are my foundation for writing...they provide my support.
After my husband, the next person on my support list is my mom. She has always encouraged me to be creative. My mom is the one person who no matter what I wrote growning up would love it. That's what moms do, right? And I love her dearly for it, but having your mom tell you that she loves your story doesn't really mean a whole lot.
So, who else can I turn to? My non-writer friends? They are all super supportive and always ask questions about my writing. In fact, this past weekend a group of us were at dinner for one of my friend's birthdays, and they were all talking about when they make Passion Fish into a movie (I do love that they think big!) how they want to be in on the premiere. I just laugh and promise that when it happens (I can dream!) they will definitely be there with me. Again, makes me feel good, and I truly value all of them, but not really what I need to get me going.
The most helpful people I have in my life are those writer friends who will tell me the truth about what they read. That I think is what every author needs as a good foundation to their writing. For me, having someone tell me that something doesn't work or make sense is far more valuable than them telling me how much they love it.
While I truly appreciate those people in my life who are there for me on those days when I'm feeling off and need a good ego stroke, I think that my writing is built on the foundation and support of those that will tell me when I suck too. I think sometimes we forget about those people and just focus on the praise...and I know if I did that, my writing would suffer.
So to my friends who tell me I suck from time to time...THANK YOU! Know that you are truly appreciated, even if I forget to tell you enough. Keep up the good work!